If you’ve already tried orgasm control, gags, and chastity and are now looking for a new hot kink to experiment with, – have a look at impact play.
What is impact play?
Impact play is a kink and a tactic to get stronger sexual pleasure through “impacting” the body with objects. It is a consensual BDSM practice that has many loyal followers.
The most common impact play is the good-old spanking that can be performed with a hand, a belt, or anything else really, for example:
The most common impact play is the good-old spanking that can be performed with a hand, a belt, or anything else really, for example:
- Whips
- Paddles
- Canes
- Slappers
- Floggers
- Tawse
You don't need tools for impact play
Don’t rush to Amazon to order a set of impact play tools. You can get them, by all means, if you want, but you can also start without them. Use your hands or those of your partners, and feel free to utilize any household items that are fit for the job. Wooden spoons, rulers, and dog leashes make great affordable accessories.
Once you fall in love with the kink, start upgrading your tools collection with themed and versatile items created specifically for impact play.
Once you fall in love with the kink, start upgrading your tools collection with themed and versatile items created specifically for impact play.
What are the main benefits of impact play?
Oof, where do we start?
There are many benefits to using them in your sex life and relationships, and people enjoy it for several reasons.
Exploring your limits. Not everyone considers sex sacred or profound, and not everyone is conservative about it. Testing yourself and seeing how far you’re ready to go for arousal and excitement is a fun journey to understanding yourself.
There are many benefits to using them in your sex life and relationships, and people enjoy it for several reasons.
- Adrenaline. You are being spanked, and your body feels it. However, it happens in a controlled environment with someone you like and are attracted to, which creates an endorphin rush. It’s not the same as the runner’s high, but something similar.
- Sensory stimulation. Impact play creates a unique sensation that’s different from other types of sex plays and BDSM variations. You get to feel something that’s one of a kind, something that you can’t get in other places and scenarios.
- Power exchange. One is being submissive, and the other is in a dominant position. People love those kinds of intimacy games, as it’s intensely erotic to both feel the power and give it up to someone you adore.
- Building trust. When you hear about impact play, exercising and strengthening trust may not be your number one thought, but it’s an excellent way for couples to get closer together. Sharing experiences, especially intimate ones, requires trust. It also creates shared memories that make your bond deeper.
Exploring your limits. Not everyone considers sex sacred or profound, and not everyone is conservative about it. Testing yourself and seeing how far you’re ready to go for arousal and excitement is a fun journey to understanding yourself.
Safety tips for impact play
It wouldn’t be a beginner’s guide if we didn’t share the main safety tips to follow:
- Learn more about the subject. Education is so important, especially with sexual topics. Learning the tips, tricks, and techniques will make you a better impactor and lover and avoid common mistakes. Plus, you may get a few spicy ideas to try yourself.
- Refrain from alcohol or substance abuse. First, you might accidentally hurt someone without realizing it, as you’ll be hitting them stronger than you would sober. Second, if you’re the one on the receiving end and you’re not sober, you may be injured without noticing it because the substance or the alcohol will make you not feel the pain.
- Get consent from anyone and everyone. Doesn’t matter if they do the impact or are impacted, you should always get verbal and enthusiastic consent from the kink participants.
- Define allowed zones. You don’t have to be impacted solely on your bum. Theoretically, nothing is off-limits. Indeed, hitting someone in the face or on the head might be a bad idea, but hands, legs, the stomach, and the back are all potential areas for the kink. Most people enjoy involving the buttocks, thighs, shoulders, and arms and stay clear of sensitive areas, such as the kidneys and spine.
- Select your weapon of choice. Some would prefer a wooden spatula, while others would prefer leather or latex whips. Focus on what you or your lovers prefer, and avoid objects that are not on the green list.
- Choose a safe word. You might never actually use it, but having one will give you peace of mind. Also, if someone refuses to choose a safe word and makes fun of or says it’s unnecessary, know that it’s a huge red flag. A faithful ally will want you to be safe and comfortable. Don’t buy any of the BS that safety ruins the fun of it. It doesn’t, unlike their gaslighting ways.
- Check your tools for damage—the impact play impacts not only your body but also the objects. If you use them enthusiastically and continuously, they are bound to break or damage at some point. When that happens, it can cause unwanted and totally preventable injuries. If you inspect them quickly after every session, that should be enough.
Getting started
Impact play is not that hard, really; there are not many secrets to how to explore the kink for maximized pleasure. Remember the consent and boundaries principles, and
- Do try it at home. If you’re wondering what impact play feels like but are too shy to ask someone about it, try it yourself! Spank your bum with whatever you have at hand in your apartment and see how you like it.
- Slow and steady wins the impact race. Once you start practicing, don’t rush; ease your way into the kink. Your body will need time to adapt anyway, and even the slightest impact will initially feel strong.
- Talking is key. Communicate with your partners. Check if they like the intensity and the areas you’re working with. Be flexible and show enthusiasm if someone’s willing to try something new (given that it’s within your boundaries). Be prepared to stop and change if the other person is uncomfortable.
- Warm up and cool down, just like after a fitness class. You’ll be impacting the body, and the body needs to be prepared. Do a quick warm-up to prep the skin and the muscles to reduce the shock effect. Once you’re done, touch the areas gently or do a quick massage.
Common mistakes with impact play
Let’s finish strong by going over some common mistakes that people make, even when they’re exploring the impact play ethically.
- Hitting unsafe areas. You may think it’s hot, sexy, and fun, but it’s really just dangerous and irresponsible.
- Skipping the consent and boundaries part because you’re so “close” that you think you don’t need it. You always do.
- Going too harsh. When you’re either doing it too fast or too intensely, you can scare your partner, make them feel uncomfortable, and hurt them.
- Playing with bad tools. Some household items can work for the impact play, others can’t. For instance, if you have a wooden spatula, make sure it’s new, doesn’t have any splinters, and won’t cause pain. Also, low-quality impact toys can break in the process or give an unbalanced and uncontrolled impact.
- Going uneven on the body. You shouldn’t just hit the same area again and again for 15 minutes. Impact play is a balanced game, and you’ll get pleasure if the impact is spread across the body more or less evenly.
- Being drunk or drugged during play. It’s best if you leave all substances out for this one. The core premise of impact play is the feeling you get on your body, and taking anything that’s clouding your brain will mess with your pain tolerance, increase the risk of accidents, and spoil the fun.
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FAQ
Is impact play normal?
It is an absolutely normal thing to do with your lovers if you are prepared, fully aware of each other’s boundaries, follow the safety protocol, and do it willingly.
Can you get injured during impact play?
There is always a possibility that you will get injured, even if you’re engaged in vanilla sex. You need to be careful with your strength, avoid unsafe areas, and be attentive to one another, and you’ll be alright.
Is impact play triggering?
Impact play is, essentially, you softly beating each other with different objects. If someone had a trauma or an emotional trigger due to past exposure to violence, they might find this kink disturbing. That’s why you should always get someone’s consent before trying new kinks. You never know what the person has been through before, and you don’t want to hurt them, physically or mentally.
