The Flure’s beginner’s guide to wax play will open up a whole new world of pleasure and arousal for you if you let it. Let’s go!
What is wax play?
Wax play is one of the kinks that plays with sensors and visuals to create an unforgettable sensual experience.
The core idea behind the kink is simple. You get some max warmed up, and you drip it onto your partner:
First, the wax shocks the skin and creates a warm sensation, then dries up, creating a gentle restraint.
The core idea behind the kink is simple. You get some max warmed up, and you drip it onto your partner:
- Slowly
- Strategically
- Sensually
First, the wax shocks the skin and creates a warm sensation, then dries up, creating a gentle restraint.
Wax play tools
Acing wax play is not hard, but you must be prepared.
First of all, not all wax is good wax for bedroom time. Your best bet is to purchase the wax in specialty shops or look for low-temperature wax with lower melting points, such as soy or paraffin candles. This will ensure you get the wax that won’t burn the skin and spoil stimulation.
Also, you don’t have to stick to the classic wax but can pick up different colors, shapes, and forms to add more fun to the play.
The next thing you need for a successful wax play adventure is the dripping tool. You can get away with candles and lean them over so a little bit of max comes out, but if you want to get wax in different forms and formats, you’ll need dripping accessories. You can use spoons, wax pots, or ladles.
Once all those necessities are secured, move on to:
First of all, not all wax is good wax for bedroom time. Your best bet is to purchase the wax in specialty shops or look for low-temperature wax with lower melting points, such as soy or paraffin candles. This will ensure you get the wax that won’t burn the skin and spoil stimulation.
Also, you don’t have to stick to the classic wax but can pick up different colors, shapes, and forms to add more fun to the play.
The next thing you need for a successful wax play adventure is the dripping tool. You can get away with candles and lean them over so a little bit of max comes out, but if you want to get wax in different forms and formats, you’ll need dripping accessories. You can use spoons, wax pots, or ladles.
Once all those necessities are secured, move on to:
- Wax warmers that will keep the max nice and melted, creating a seamless play experience with zero worries about cooling your wax and having to reheat it repeatedly.
- You can use something for cooling, such as ice packs, cold water, or anything you have at home that is frozen. This will create a thrilling contrast with the heat from the wax and help the person experience all ranges of emotions.
- Brushes to apply wax creatively and make art on someone’s body.
- Protective covers for the surfaces. Max will be dripping, and it is almost inevitable that it will spill here and there or that the person covered in it will move and accidentally wipe the wax against something. If you don’t want wax to stick to your favorite mattress, furniture, floor, or anywhere else, get yourself a big towel or a blanket that you can wash easily.
- Oils and lotions. Hydration is a lifestyle; you should always care for your skin. If you’re about to launch a waxing play party, put a layer of lotion, cream, or oil on everyone’s body. That will create a protective coating that will help protect the skin against too intense impact.
Why do people enjoy wax play?
First of all, who’s never played with wax at least once in their lives? Piquing a bit of wax on your hands and fingers is magnifying and ridiculously entertaining. We know you did it too! And if you’ve somehow avoided this fun activity, do it right now.
Wax play gives people access to two essential experiences:
You get to feel something brand new and exciting as your partner slowly pours wax on you across your naked body. At the same time, there is a lot of power play involved. The person submitting to being covered with wax accepts it. In contrast, the other, dominant person assumes complete control over them, mainly if additional tools, such as blindfolds or restraints, are used.
Last but not least, wax play is aesthetically pleasing. It has many devoted followers and enthusiasts because of its visual appeal. Watching wax drop and dry on someone’s body is very arty, plus you can use wax to paint something, which takes it to a whole new level.
Wax play gives people access to two essential experiences:
- Sensory play
- Power dynamics play
You get to feel something brand new and exciting as your partner slowly pours wax on you across your naked body. At the same time, there is a lot of power play involved. The person submitting to being covered with wax accepts it. In contrast, the other, dominant person assumes complete control over them, mainly if additional tools, such as blindfolds or restraints, are used.
Last but not least, wax play is aesthetically pleasing. It has many devoted followers and enthusiasts because of its visual appeal. Watching wax drop and dry on someone’s body is very arty, plus you can use wax to paint something, which takes it to a whole new level.
Safety and consent tips for wax play
If you want your wax play experience to go super smooth and leave only the best of memories, make sure to pay attention to consent and safety tips.
Wax play consent
Consent is the number one thing you need to secure anytime you attempt any sexy play or activity.
Consent is an agreement between two or more people who are about to engage in an activity, in our case, in wax play and, possibly, sex.
Consent must be:
- Clear
- Enthusiastic
- Vocal
- Voluntary
- Informed
Forcing someone or begging them until they say Yes is not consent. Consent is when everyone knows what’s to come, wants to participate, and isn’t coerced into it.
When you cover consent, it makes sense to talk about boundaries as well. Discuss what each of you is expecting and willing to do, and what is a huge No for them.
It might be a good idea to come up with a safe word as well. Something nice and short that would signify that the party is over. Even if you’re gentle and slow, someone’s reaction to the play may be mixed or negative. If that happens, they need an easy and quick way out that wouldn’t force them to talk a lot or have to argue.
Once they say the safe word – lights out, everyone goes home. Or, you can talk things out, change whatever was bothering them, and continue. But the first step is to pause immediately.
Note: Most likely, you won’t have to ever use the safe word. However, the mere knowledge of it being there will keep everyone at ease.
Wax play safety tips
Once consent and boundaries are sorted, the next step is following the safety tips. Here are the main ones to watch out for.
- Pick the right wax that won’t overheat and cause burns.
- Check the wax temperature anytime you’re about to use it. You can accidentally overheat it (even the safer one) and cause mild burns and irritation to the other person’s skin.
- Keep your distance. If you’re holding candles and the wax is dripping, make sure to keep it at a safe distance from the body, so the accidental move or wind doesn’t cause burns.
- Always use a barrier, such as a body lotion or oil to keep the skin extra protected, and to make wax removal simpler.
- Stay clear of sensitive areas, such as eyes, mouth, and genitals. Also, don’t pour wax anywhere that’s irritated or wounded.
- Have an easy way to clean planned out and ready to go. Have something like a coin or a credit card at hand to help remove smaller bits of wax, use warm damp cloths for the same purpose.
- Have a chat. Go over the whole event, see how you both felt and discuss if anything can be changed or added for the next time. This is done to primarily ensure that everyone is comfortable with the experience, but can also be a little retrospective for the next wax play.
Getting started with wax play
Wax play is a somewhat elaborate but not too complex kink, so you don't need a detailed guide on how to explore wax play; keep those simple points in mind:
If you don't yet have someone to experiment with, try the Flure app. It's a platform with lots of open-minded and adventurous people. Alternatively, you can browse themed forums and social media groups to find somebody who would love to join you.
Also, you don't have to have a partner to have a bit of wax play. Melt some wax, dim the lights, turn on a sensual playlist, and get this party started.
- Pick up the right wax that won't cause burns or other discomfort.
- Prep the skin by taking a shower and putting on some lotion.
- Keep on testing the temperature every once in a while.
- Choose the right space where you can freely move around without worrying about destroying furniture, sheets, etc.
- Put the little cleanup station close in case of accidents.
If you don't yet have someone to experiment with, try the Flure app. It's a platform with lots of open-minded and adventurous people. Alternatively, you can browse themed forums and social media groups to find somebody who would love to join you.
Also, you don't have to have a partner to have a bit of wax play. Melt some wax, dim the lights, turn on a sensual playlist, and get this party started.
Looking for a partner to explore kinks together? Join Flure's community of like-minded people to connect and discover!
Advanced techniques or variations of wax play
Once you get more confident and comfortable with wax play, you can move to more advanced stuff, such as:
- Layering wax to create textures and experience different sensations. The very first layer will be the most impactful, but if you spread it thin, you can put more wax on top and get a different feeling.
- Painting with wax can be basic or advanced if you add colors and aim to properly paint something rather than make abstract strokes.
- Sensory deprivation and wax play make an amazing combo. Limit your partner’s abilities to see, head, and speak, and they’ll get much more pleasure from the experience.
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FAQ
What’s the best way to start with wax play?
The best way to start with the kink is by exploring wax play ethically. Check that everyone is happy to do it, watch out for how everyone feels during the play, and start slow.
What are the benefits of wax play?
Wax play is enjoyable for a number of reasons. First of all, it’s like a fun little game that you play with your lover. It creates a unique sensory effect and extra thrill from the “danger” of it. It is also a rather aesthetic kink as you can express your creativity and play with the shapes of wax. Lastly, it helps create a stronger bond and a sense of trust between the partners.
Is wax play normal?
Wax play, like any other kink, is absolutely normal as long as you’re doing it ethically and within the law. Whatever brings you joy in the bedroom is fine and we shouldn’t judge odd things if they’re not our cups of tea, especially if we haven’t tried them yet.
