Ever felt something was missing in your relationship? Even in a loving partnership, the desire to explore new experiences and connections can be natural. You’re not alone if you’ve pondered what lies beyond the boundaries of monogamy. The Flure team suggests you consider other options to understand — once and for all — which relationship structure makes everybody happy.
Understanding the root issues
What are the reasons why you consider going poly? If the desire to open the relationship stems from unmet needs (e.g., sexual variety, emotional connections), and the core relationship is strong, opening up might be a viable alternative.
Mutual desire and agreement
For an open relationship to work, it’s vital to dive into candid conversations about boundaries, expectations, and feelings. By laying everything on the table, you create a secure space for both partners. It shouldn’t be a compromise or a last-ditch effort to save the relationship. If one partner is reluctant or feels pressured, opening the relationship can lead to further complications and heartache.
Long-term compatibility
It’s important not to use an open relationship as a ‘Band-Aid’ to avoid difficult conversations or decisions. If the relationship is struggling, it’s essential to work on these issues directly. On the other hand, if your life goals and values match, going poly can be a healthy and rational solution.
Exploring new emotional connections
Opening your relationship can allow you to connect with new people on a deep emotional level. These new connections can bring fresh perspectives and enrich your life in ways you may not have anticipated.
Fulfilling diverse needs
It’s unfair to expect that one person can and will fulfill all your emotional, intellectual, and physical needs. An open relationship allows you to seek out different partners who can meet various aspects of your personality and desires, creating a more holistic sense of fulfillment.
Reducing pressure on your primary relationship
In monogamous relationships, there’s often pressure to be everything to your partner — best friend, lover, confidante, etc. Opening your relationship can alleviate some of this pressure, allowing each partner to explore and fulfill needs without feeling overwhelmed.
Promoting independence and autonomy
An open relationship can foster a sense of independence and autonomy for both partners. Each person has the freedom to explore new experiences and relationships while maintaining a strong bond with their primary partner.
Increasing sexual variety
For many, one of the most appealing aspects of an open relationship is the opportunity to explore sexual connections with others. This can rekindle passion, keep things exciting, and allow exploring desires and fantasies that cannot be fulfilled within one primary relationship.
Challenging social norms
Choosing an open relationship can challenge societal norms and expectations about love, sex, and relationships. It can also empower one to live authentically and on one's own terms rather than conform to traditional relationship structures.
Creating a community
Polyamory and open relationships often come with a built-in community of like-minded individuals who share similar values and experiences. This can create a support network where you can share advice, learn from others, and build lasting friendships.
Bottom line
Opening up can bring personal growth and strengthen your relationship if handled with care and respect. It’s not about fixing what’s broken but enhancing what’s already there. If you’re ready to explore, start the conversation with your partner and see where it leads. And if you’re looking for a community of like-minded individuals, look no further and join Flure – it’s a great place to start! With the option of adding partners to your account and relevant filters, you’re able to connect with people who share your interests and passions. Embrace the adventure!
