It doesn’t matter if you have been in a relationship for a while or you are just about to meet someone: a kinky date night is the best way to ignite your passion and explore your desires. If you have never been on one but always wanted to try, grab this friendly mini-guide to plan your first kinky date to ensure you and your partner will have the best sensual experience.
First, ensure you are on the same page: ask your date if a kinky night turns them on. When you have their consent, suggest some scenarios of how to exercise your desires and, perhaps, try things you always wanted to but never found a moment. Here are some tips for your spicy date night:
1. Visit a sex toy shop together
Make a date out of visiting a local or online sex toy shop. It's a playful and sexy way to discover what turns you on and which toys you would like to try. Discuss what you find intriguing and consider purchasing something new to try together later.
2. Create a sensory deprivation experience
Blindfolds and headphones can intensify sensations and anticipation. One partner can use various textures, temperatures, and tastes to tease and tantalize the other, who is deprived of sight and sound, heightening the other senses.
3. Attend a kink event
Many communities offer workshops or parties focused on different aspects of BDSM and kink. Attending one can be both educational and exciting, offering new techniques to try and a chance to meet like-minded people.
4. Role-playing scenarios
Unleash your inner actors by diving into role-playing. Role-playing can add an exhilarating layer to your relationship, whether it’s a classic scenario like doctor-patient, teacher-student, or something more fantastical.
5. Experiment with light bondage
Explore the realms of bondage gently by using soft restraints like silk ties or cuffs. The act of giving up control to your partner can be thrilling and build trust between the two of you.
6. Indulge in a professional couples massage
Opt for a sensual couples' massage either at a spa that offers such services or by hiring a professional to come to your home. The experience of being pampered together can be both relaxing and arousing.
7. Dabble in temperature play
Experiment with sensations of hot and cold during foreplay. Use ice cubes, warm oils, or candle wax designed for body play to explore each other’s thresholds of pleasure and discomfort.
8. Have a sexy photoshoot
Create an intimate photoshoot at home where one of you plays the photographer and the other is the model. You can take turns directing each other into various poses and scenarios. This can be a fun way to explore exhibitionism and vulnerability.
9. Plan a secret rendezvous
Arrange to meet at a bar or restaurant as if you were strangers, engaging in flirtatious conversation and perhaps even using fake names. The thrill of "meeting" your partner for the first time can add an exciting element to your night.
10. Incorporate edging
Extend your pleasure by practicing edging, where one partner brings the other to the brink of orgasm and then reduces stimulation, prolonging the experience and building more intense orgasms.
Communication is key in any relationship, especially when exploring new territories. Discuss boundaries, safe words, and consent beforehand to ensure a comfortable and enjoyable experience for both partners. Enjoy the exploring!
