“After years of being on dating apps, I am used to having at least three people to spend my time with simultaneously. I don’t want to promise anybody anything, I am afraid to make a wrong choice,” says 33-year-old Sabrina.
Inconsistent communication: canceled or changed plans, sporadic messages, and lack of empathy in communication in general are the clear signs that you are being benched.
Uncertainty: the person is vague about their contact with you and if they are interested in seeing you again.
Hot and Cold Behavior: if they are affectionate at times and distant at others, it can be a sign they only need you occasionally.
One-sidedness: your interaction with the person often feels one-sided, or you may feel like you are communicating with nearly a stranger.
Last-minute plans: they get in touch and try to make plans unexpectedly.
Casual sex: you have sex, regularly or occasionally, without commitment or emotional connection.
Set boundaries: identify your needs and wants and stand up for them. Understanding your worth will help you protect your personal space and mental health.
Open communication: be direct and honest with your partner, don’t fear to scare them away or ruin your relationship with a conversation about it.
Focus on yourself: prioritize your well-being and avoid destructive relations that hurt you or damage your self-esteem.
Be ready to walk away: don’t encourage manipulative behavior, and be prepared to end a relationship that undermines your emotional health.